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17 Traits of a BadAss MILF….(it’s not what you think)

by | May 9, 2023 | BadAss MILF Series, Life Coaching, Life in General, Self Love

Steve Stifler’s iconic character from American Pie certainly left quite the impression; after all, who hasn’t heard of MILF? Fueling our collective fantasies with its easy-to-remember acronym for “Mom I’d Like to F@ck”, it has since become a staple in pop culture.

‘MILF’ has become a widely recognized acronym, but what does ‘Mom I’d Like To F@ck’ really mean?

Generally speaking, it is in fact a compliment. One ONLY pertaining to one’s physical appearance or sexual availability. 

Beautiful MILF’s, seeming to have it all–but beneath the veneer of glamour is often a deep disconnect from their true worth. Instead of seeking validation within themselves or relying on genuine relationships, they use their physical appearance as an attempt for external recognition and acceptance. Many believe that the ability to attract a partner or mate is what makes us valuable, happy and worthy. They truly believe that being attractive makes them high-value.

100% not true. 

Just like money doesn’t bring happiness, being pretty doesn’t either. 

You see, it doesn’t take much talent or skill to paint on some makeup and wear an outfit that leaves little to the imagination. It doesn’t take much effort to find someone to have sex with.  Anyone can do that, and any equally low-value person will be attracted to such. 

Don’t get me wrong, I am very aware that some of us are born with more siren-like gifts than others, which makes us blessed in the look department, but that only goes so far if you are not  a very nice person and/or do not bring much to the table, but superficial traits.

So….what is a BadAss MILF?

Boldly Attractive, Dependable Alpha Smart Super Mom I Love Forever

A MILF is a pretty face and possibly an easy score. That’s nothing to brag about. However….A BadAss MILF is more than just her external looks. She is the whole package. She is classy,  confident, intelligent, loving, limitless, happy, and beautiful from the inside out. Her intrinsic happiness radiates positive energy creating an evergreen aura of beauty that cannot be  reproduced by external factors such as makeup and clothes and material items. In fact, her intrinsic happiness is so strong that she becomes more and more beautiful to everyone around  her, no matter what parts God gave her or didn’t. 

“Happy girls are the prettiest.” Audrey Hepburn

A BadAss MILF is a true beauty – not just on the outside, but radiating her inner joy and calm outward. Her intrinsic strength instills an aura of timeless elegance that can never be matched  by clothes or expensive possessions or anything external; she’s filled with passion, intelligence and limitless love.

So what are some values and qualities of a BadAss MILF?

 

1.  She prioritizes herself, and her time, without sacrificing her children or partner.

She’s the ultimate multitasker, always juggling a million things at once. But despite her hectic schedule, she manages to prioritize self-care without sacrificing her commitments to her loved ones. From catching enough Z’s to treating herself to a fresh manicure, or going out with girlfriends, she knows the value of taking time for the little things. By placing herself high on her own priority list, she’s able to show up for others as her best self – not just the leftovers of her already depleted energy. And with her thoughtful approach to wellness, she’s inspiring others to follow her lead and make self-care a non-negotiable in their lives too.

Don’t be fooled – prioritizing ourselves doesn’t mean abandoning our responsibilities. It’s time to debunk the myth that self-care is selfish and start prioritizing your mental health. Whether it’s taking a solo walk to clear your mind, indulging in a good book, or simply taking a few deep breaths, self-care should be an essential part of your daily routine. 

2.  She carries herself with class.

With every step she takes, it is evident that she exudes grace, elegance, and an undeniable touch of class. Her movements are effortless and fluid, as if she is gliding on clouds. Her  posture is proud, yet humble, making her stand out in a crowd. She has an unmistakable air of sophistication that draws people towards her, making them stop and take notice. Simply put,  she is a picture of poise and refinement, and it’s hard not to feel captivated by her presence.

3.  She practices self-mastery.

What are the distinguishing characteristics of those who hold the reins of their lives? How do they conduct themselves and what runs through their minds? Those who embody self-mastery exude a certain calm composure, refraining from impulsive reactions that may compromise their goals or values. They operate from a place of intentionality, putting careful thought into their decisions and actions. Rather than allowing external factors to manipulate them, they maintain an inner sense of harmony and equilibrium. It’s not that they never experience stress or anxiety, but they have developed a strength that enables them to cope with adversity and rise above it. At the same time, they avoid becoming overly attached to outcomes, allowing for flexibility and adaptability. It’s a balance that requires practice and discipline but ultimately leads to a more fulfilling and empowered life.

4.  She educates herself.

A Badass MILF is no longer limited to traditional forms of education and uses her passion and curiosity as a fuel for growth. She constantly seeks new knowledge through reading materials that appeal to her interests. 

Self-education is a powerful tool that can transform anyone’s life. By taking the initiative to learn on your own, you are opening up a world of possibilities and expanding your knowledge  beyond what traditional education can provide. Whether it’s reading books, watching online tutorials, attending workshops, or networking with experts in your field, self-education  empowers  you to take control of your own learning journey. It’s a way to pursue your passions, stay current with industry trends, and challenge yourself to grow and evolve. By dedicating  just a few minutes each day towards learning something fascinating, this is a sure-fire way to level up in life. 

At the very least, it will give you something intelligent to talk about at the dinner table besides gossip. 

5.  She has high emotional intelligence.

Did you know that Emotional Intelligence is far more valuable than IQ? Did you also know that we have the ability to raise our EQ where as we cannot change our IQ.

A BadAss MILF is a master at understanding, processing and managing her own emotions as well as understanding and empathizing with those of others. Her ability to recognize the  thoughts, feelings and motivations behind interactions allows her to foster positive relationships in any situation.

Unlocking Emotional Intelligence means honing in on skills such as self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, and social skills. It means learning to recognize when our own emotions are  influencing our behavior and recognizing when others are experiencing emotional challenges. By cultivating our Emotional Intelligence, we can not only improve our own lives but also  make a positive impact on those around us.

The power of Emotional Intelligence can lead to deeper and more fulfilling relationships, better workplace dynamics, and a stronger sense of self. It’s an essential part of personal growth  and self-improvement that can pay dividends throughout our lives.

6.  She takes responsibility for her personal development and healing.

A BadAss MILF embarks on a journey of self-growth and exploration, acknowledging the importance of healing emotional hurts and triggers. Through this journey, she strives to attain a sense of inner serenity by taking ownership of her personal development. Her path may be rocky and challenging, but she perseveres in order to find true peace within herself. She understands that finding this internal harmony is crucial not only for her own well-being but also for her ability to connect with others in a meaningful way. By putting in the hard work and dedication necessary for self-growth, she hopes to inspire others to do the same.

7.  She treats her mind and body like a temple.

She nurtures her mind and body with tenderness, showing herself the same grace and compassion that she would extend to a dear friend. Every day, she cultivates the habits and practices that promote inner and outer wellness, whether it’s through yoga, meditation, journaling, reading, eating healthy food or any form of movement or exercise, or simply taking time to unwind and recharge. By prioritizing her own well-being, she is able to show up fully and authentically in every aspect of her life, radiating positivity and light to those around her. 

8.  She has high standards and does not settle.

She has a fire inside that fuels her to always aim for the best. Mediocrity isn’t in her vocabulary, and she refuses to accept anything less than excellence. She has set the bar high for herself and strives to exceed her own expectations. Even when the journey is difficult and the road ahead is uncertain, she persists with her head held high. This determination and unwavering commitment to her own success is inspiring, and those around her can’t help but be motivated by her example. She is a force to be reckoned with and a shining beacon of what can be achieved with hard work and perseverance.

“A BadAss MILF knows exactly what she brings to the table and she isn’t afraid to eat alone.” – Jen

 Nuff said. 

9.  She has personal goals and dreams and goes after them.

She’s a daring dream-chaser who refuses to let naysayers stand in her way. Guided by her trusted circle of influence, she’s making strides towards achieving her goals and living her best life. While obstacles may appear, she remains relentlessly focused on her path forward, fueled by her passion and resolve. The haters can talk all they want, but they’ll never break her spirit or dim her shine. She’s an unstoppable force and an inspiration to anyone with a dream to pursue. 

By breaking down her goals into smaller steps, she sets herself up for success. She knows that simply having goals isn’t enough – it’s the actionable steps that pave the way to  accomplishment. It’s the habitual system she has created that makes her goals a true possibility and puts her into a different category than others. With each baby step taken, she gains  momentum towards achieving her objectives. This then allows her to stretch her potential even further and aim for bigger goals she never thought imaginable. 

10.  She has healthy habits and routines.

With a relentless devotion to her well-being, a BadAss MILF is constantly exploring new ways to incorporate positive habits into her daily routine. From the moment she wakes up, she eagerly embraces each moment with enthusiasm and intention, determined to maximize her potential for happiness and fulfillment. Whether it’s a simple morning stretch, a midday goal-setting session, waking up early, or a relaxing nighttime meditation, she understands that even the smallest habits have the power to transform her life for the better. With a deep understanding of the importance of self-care and intentional living, there’s no telling how far this determined and motivated individual will go on her journey towards ultimate health and wellness.

11.  She has a healthy and realistic Circle of Influence.

This fierce and independent woman has created a powerful community of trusted individuals who uplift and support each other. She recognizes that family isn’t always synonymous with reliability and loyalty, and she’s careful about whom she allows into her inner circle. She possesses a unique ability to understand where each person in her life fits in and has reasonable expectations for all. Her incredible curatorial skills have allowed her to cultivate a circle of influence that fuels her inner fire and enables true empowerment. This savvy lady has figured out that having the right people in her life is key, and she’s not afraid to set boundaries to ensure she’s surrounded by only the best. 

She does not tolerate gossip of any sort nor does she tolerate jealousy or catty behavior from her social circle. She is wise to the fact that not everyone is a friend, and has a clear understanding of where people fit into her life and vice versa. By setting personal boundaries, she is on the path to achieving her dreams and finding true happiness.

Are you inspired yet?

12.  She knows she is badass and wants you to be badass too.

She’s an undeniable force, empowering the world with her strength and positive attitude instead of tearing down those around her. Her badassery is untouchable. She knows that there is an abundance of intrinsic happiness for everyone and wishes everyone the same. 

She stands out from the rest by embracing her individuality and showing appreciation for other women. Rather than trying to compete with them, she recognizes that everyone has their  own unique strengths and vulnerabilities; empowering those around her leads to far more rewarding results.

She inspires and uplifts those around her, helping them to tap into their own strength and potential. Her encouragement and support bring out the best in others, leading to positive  personal and professional growth.

13.  She handles “The Benjamins”

She is a master at managing her money, approaching it with the same finesse as an experienced Chief Financial Officer. It doesn’t matter if she has an 8-figure empire or she’s a stay-at-home mom; her money intelligence is a priority.

With a savvy approach to budgeting and a keen eye for smart spending, she manages to thrive without the constant worry of living paycheck to paycheck. Proudly living beneath her  means, she has mastered the art of making every dollar count – and she’s not afraid to share her secrets with others looking to do the same. Through careful planning and intentional  living,  she has found a path to financial stability that allows her to focus on the things that matter most: her family, her career, and her own personal growth. For her, living with purpose  means never sacrificing her own happiness for the sake of staying afloat – and that’s a lesson we could all stand to learn.

A savvy and determined BadAss MILF is not one to shy away from any means necessary to achieve her financial goals. Whether proficient in financial software or outsourcing to expert  consultants, she firmly believes in the importance of budgeting and wise spending, dismissing the lame excuse of “not liking numbers.” Her financial success is non-negotiable.

14.  She feeds her soul.

She nourishes her inner being spiritually through faith and altruism, consigning herself to a greater cause. She honors her spirit through service and making a positive impact on others. By engaging with her beliefs and values, she cultivates a sense of fulfillment that nourishes her soul. Whether through prayer, meditation, or simply living a life of service, she seeks to deepen her connection with something greater than herself. This devotion forms the foundation of her personal growth and drives her desire to give back to the world. By channeling her energy into acts of kindness and generosity, she derives a profound sense of purpose and meaning. Her spiritual journey is an ongoing one, filled with moments of enlightenment and introspection. Through it all, she keeps moving forward, sustained by the knowledge that she is making a difference in the lives of those around her.

15.  She prioritizes her partner and the relationship.

The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” – John Wooden

It’s no secret that successful relationships require effort and intentionality, but one important aspect that often gets overlooked is prioritizing your partner above all else. It may seem  counterintuitive, but putting our significant other before our children is crucial for maintaining a strong, healthy partnership in the long run. After all, our kids will eventually grow up and start  their own families, leaving you and your partner to continue building a life together. So don’t be afraid to carve out time and energy for each other, even when it feels like there are a million  other things demanding your attention. Remember, a strong partnership is the foundation for a happy and fulfilling life.

A BadAss MILF wants her man to always want and desire her and in order to do this she has to put him first. It doesn’t mean she leaves the kids sitting in dirty diapers or propped in front  of  the TV in a highchair so they can make more babies all day. It simply means each day, week, month, and year, she intentionally carves out time to nurture their relationship. From  weekly date nights, daily love deposits, weekend get-aways and yearly vacations. She is very aware that the kids will always be taken care of and she must prioritize her partner. 

16.  She doesn’t compete with other women.

A confident and empowered woman, aka the Badass MILF, rises above the temptation to compare herself to others. Instead, she harnesses any energy of jealousy and turns it into motivation for personal growth. In a world where women may feel pressure to compete with one another, she understands that her only competition is her own self-doubt. She transforms negative emotions into positive action, never using them as a tool to tear down others. For her, the only competition that matters is the one with herself. After all, there’s no need for shade when you’re shining bright.

17.  She honors ALL boundaries.

With a strong sense of self-awareness, she knows the importance of boundaries – not just for herself, but for others too. She has a keen sense of what’s appropriate and what’s not, and she won’t hesitate to speak up if someone oversteps. But what really sets her apart is her ability to respect the unspoken boundaries of others – the ones she would want them to honor if the roles were reversed. She knows that by taking care of herself and setting healthy boundaries, she’s ultimately in control of how others treat her. And that’s a power she doesn’t take lightly. Her actions truly speak to her impressive level of consideration for others.

CONCLUSION:

A BadAss MILF is a force to be reckoned with. Her beauty goes beyond that which can be simply seen, for she possesses an inner spark that illuminates the world around her. Her  intelligence and limitless love create an aura of joy that no amount of material belongings could ever match. A truly beautiful person from head to toe, this unstoppable mom will capture  your heart in every way.

Have you heard of The Badass MILF Bootcamp? It’s a LIVE course I created to empower women and remove the negative connotations surrounding the term MILF. 

Society has taught us that a woman’s worth is based solely on her physical appearance, but The Badass MILF Bootcamp is here to challenge that. It’s a call to women everywhere to stop  attaching their value to a label and start investing in their skills and mindset. You see, being a MILF shouldn’t be about superficial competition with other women, but rather about  confidence and inner strength so we can lift and encourage other women without being catty and back-stabbing. 

The Badass MILF Bootcamp encourages women to bring their authentic selves to the table and to strive for more than just looks and boys. It’s time to break free from the cycle of seeking  external validation and start living life on your terms. 

Do you want to know how much of a BadAss MILF you really are? Take my QUIZ now! – Go here 

Join my Bootcamp and become a BadAss MILF today.

 

Hello!

I am Jen,

As a dedicated life coach specializing in co-parenting, divorce, and single motherhood, I bring a unique blend of professional expertise and personal experience to my coaching practice. I am deeply committed to helping women not only survive divorce but also thrive as they transition into their roles as single mothers. I provide tailored coaching to assist my clients in developing effective co-parenting strategies, fostering healthy communication, and creating nurturing environments for their children.

I am also the author of the best-selling book “I am Amazing: From Invisible to Invincible”. My self-help memoir offers hope and inspiration for anyone who has felt overwhelmed by life and their struggles with mental health. With raw honesty and vulnerability, I provide an intimate look at my journey from victim to victorious.

 

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