From Heartbreak to Happiness: Embracing Shared Custody and Part-time Parenting

by | Oct 3, 2023 | Co-Parenting, Divorce and Life After, Kids and Parenting, Life in General

Divorce. The mere mention of the word can send shivers down one’s spine, conjuring images of heartbreak, despair, and shattered dreams. It’s a painful journey, filled with the emotional wreckage of a once-promising partnership. But amidst the wreckage, there is a glimmer of hope, a silver lining waiting to be discovered. 

Divorce is never easy, especially when children are involved. It can be painful and emotionally draining to come to terms with sharing custody of your kids with your ex-spouse. Suddenly, you find yourself with a lot of alone time, and it can be difficult to adjust to the new norm. However, it’s important to accept the change and move forward. 

Imagine, for a moment, the possibility of not just surviving divorce, but thriving in its aftermath. Picture yourself as a strong, empowered woman, reinventing yourself and finding happiness once again. 

In this blog post, we’ll discuss how to invest your new time wisely, reinvent yourself, and find intrinsic happiness that will make you a better mom and co-parent.


Acknowledge Your Emotions

It’s okay to feel sad, lonely, or even depressed when you don’t have your kids full-time. You might have conflicting emotions about your ex-spouse, and that’s okay, too. But before you can start moving on, you need to acknowledge and validate your feelings. Talk to a therapist or a trusted friend about what you’re going through. You’ll find that opening up about your emotions will make them less overwhelming.

Focus on Self-Care

Divorce can be an incredibly challenging and life-altering experience, but it also brings with it the opportunity for personal growth and self-care. One silver lining that often emerges from the complexities of co-parenting is the newfound time it affords us. While it’s natural to initially feel overwhelmed by the changes, it’s essential to view this transition as a chance to focus on ourselves. Prioritizing self-care and personal development can help us heal and rediscover our sense of identity. 

This might mean rekindling forgotten passions, pursuing long-delayed dreams, or simply nurturing our physical and emotional well-being. As we navigate the post-divorce journey, remember that this chapter can be empowering, where we not only rebuild our lives but also invest in our happiness and self-improvement.

Now is the perfect time to invest in yourself physically and mentally. Take up a new hobby, learn a new skill, or take an exercise class. Do some reflecting and healing. Spend time doing things that make you feel good. Eating healthy and getting enough sleep are also essential to your overall well-being. 

Remember, self-care is not selfish; it’s necessary for your emotional and physical health.

Be Present for Your Children

When you do have your children, make a conscious effort to be present and engaged. Put your phone away and give them your undivided attention. Create meaningful experiences by doing things together that you both enjoy. Focusing on quality time with your kids will create positive memories that will carry you through the times when you’re not together.


Co-Parent with Respect

Yes…I know….it sucks ass!! Learning to co-parent with your ex-spouse takes time and effort, but it’s necessary for the well-being of your children. It’s no longer about you or your ex, it’s about the children. It’s important to be respectful of their relationship with the other parent and not speak negatively about them in front of your children or intrude on their time together. Stick to the custody agreement and communicate effectively about scheduling and important decisions. Remember, your children deserve to have a healthy relationship with both parents.

Embrace Your New Life

As you begin to accept your new norm, it’s time to embrace your new life. Reinvent yourself by trying new things and discovering what brings you joy. You may find that you have a new sense of freedom and excitement about your future. Stay positive and keep moving forward. Your journey is unique, and only you can make the most of it.

As you embrace the challenges of shared custody, remember that it is a process. There will be ups and downs, moments of frustration, and moments of triumph. However, with the right mindset and the determination to cultivate a positive environment for your child, you can navigate this journey with resilience and optimism. In the final section, we will explore the long-term benefits of shared custody and how it can contribute to the happiness and well-being of both you and your child.

This to Shall Pass

Going through a divorce can be one of the most difficult and heart-wrenching experiences a person can face. It can feel like the end of the world, and it can be hard to imagine ever feeling happy again. But one thing that can be helpful during this trying time is the reminder that this too shall pass. Learning to dance in the rain can be a metaphor for finding joy and peace amidst the storm. It’s about accepting what is, even when it’s painful, and finding ways to move forward with grace and strength. It’s not easy, but with time and patience, it’s possible to find happiness on the other side.

 “Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning to dance in the rain”


It’s Going To Be OK Mama. It Gets Easier. I Promise.

I can still vividly recall those raw and turbulent days when my journey into single motherhood began. It was a stark transition from being a full-time stay-at-home mom, nurturing my children day in and day out, to suddenly sharing those precious moments with my ex and his nanny. The pain was so acute; it felt as if someone had torn my heart from my chest every time my kids weren’t at home with me. 

My youngest, just three years old at the time, and knowing someone else was caring for him in ways only I thought I could tore at my very soul. The weight of resentment and anger I carried as a protective mama bear was heavy. 

But, let me tell you, as time passed, those wounds began to heal. The pain gradually transformed into a profound understanding that my children’s happiness and well-being would always be at the center of my world. It wasn’t easy, but it did get better. With patience, love, and resilience, I learned that co-parenting could evolve into a more peaceful and cooperative endeavor, and my children thrived in the presence of two loving homes. 

So, to all the newly single moms out there who are feeling the weight of this journey, know that it’s okay to hurt, but also know that there’s hope. Time will soften the edges of your pain, and as you embrace your new reality, you’ll find that love and joy can bloom even in the most unexpected places.


In conclusion, the journey from heartbreak to happiness can be a transformative experience for any woman navigating the challenges of shared custody and part-time parenting. By overcoming heartbreak and loneliness, navigating the phases of healing, investing in personal growth and self-care, and ultimately embracing the challenges of shared custody, you have the power to reinvent yourself as a strong, empowered woman. 

Remember, this journey is not about finding a new version of yourself but embracing the person you were always meant to be. 

As you invest in your personal growth and navigate the complexities of co-parenting, you will discover a wellspring of strength and resilience within you. Take this opportunity to prioritize self-care and embrace the challenges that come your way, for it is through these experiences that you will find true happiness and fulfillment. 

So, embrace the journey, knowing that every step forward brings you closer to a life filled with love and joy. 

As the saying goes, “The strongest action for a woman is to love herself, be herself, and shine amongst those who never believed she could.”



I am Jen,

As a dedicated life coach specializing in co-parenting, divorce, and single motherhood, I bring a unique blend of professional expertise and personal experience to my coaching practice. I am deeply committed to helping women not only survive divorce but also thrive as they transition into their roles as single mothers. I provide tailored coaching to assist my clients in developing effective co-parenting strategies, fostering healthy communication, and creating nurturing environments for their children.

I am also the author of the best-selling book “I am Amazing: From Invisible to Invincible”. My self-help memoir offers hope and inspiration for anyone who has felt overwhelmed by life and their struggles with mental health. With raw honesty and vulnerability, I provide an intimate look at my journey from victim to victorious.




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