Home for the Holidays: Maintaining Family Traditions After Divorce

by | Nov 13, 2023 | Divorce and Life After, Kids and Parenting, Life in General

Divorce brings significant changes to the dynamics of a family, and the holiday season can often magnify those shifts. Yet, it’s important to remember that change also brings opportunities for creating fresh and meaningful traditions. As you navigate the post-divorce landscape, redefining your family’s holiday experience can be a powerful way to embrace a new chapter. 

In this blog piece, we’ll explore 12 creative and heartwarming ways to establish fresh family Christmas traditions after divorce. These traditions are designed to foster connection, bring joy, and help you and your children find comfort and excitement during this special time of year. Whether it’s cozying up for a holiday movie night or embarking on a charitable adventure, these traditions will not only strengthen your family bonds but also infuse the holiday season with a renewed sense of magic and love.


1.     Advent Calendar

Create an advent calendar for Christmas or a similar countdown for other religious holidays. Each day can include a small treat or an activity that relates to your faith, like reading a religious story or discussing its teachings.

 2.     Community Service

Emphasize the spirit of giving by engaging in community service as a family during the holiday season. Volunteering at a local shelter, organizing a food drive, or participating in a charity event can teach your children valuable lessons about empathy and compassion.

3.     Elf on the Shelf

This mischievous little elf is said to arrive from the North Pole to keep an eye on children’s behavior in the days leading up to Christmas.

Each night, the elf returns to the North Pole to report to Santa Claus and then reappears in a new spot in the morning, often engaged in playful antics or surprises. This tradition not only adds an element of excitement to the holiday season but also encourages children to be on their best behavior as they anticipate the joy of Christmas morning and the gifts Santa will bring. 

The Elf on the Shelf has become a cherished part of many families’ Christmas celebrations, creating lasting memories and sparking imagination and wonder during this festive time. 

4.     Letters to Santa

Including the tradition of writing letters to Santa adds an extra layer of enchantment to the holiday season. Children excitedly put their heartfelt wishes into words, often accompanied by colorful drawings or stickers, fostering creativity and fine motor skills. 

Parents, in turn, participate in guiding their little ones through this special tradition, creating memorable family moments while nurturing open communication. As Christmas draws near and anticipation builds, the act of writing these letters serves as a tangible link between the world of childhood wonder and the spirit of generosity and belief that defines the holiday.



5.     Christmas Movie Marathon

A Christmas movie marathon throughout the month of December is a delightful tradition that brings families and friends together to savor the magic of the season. Cozying up with blankets and hot cocoa, viewers can dive into a world of heartwarming tales, twinkling lights, and festive cheer. 

From timeless classics to modern favorites, these films kindle the holiday spirit and create cherished moments filled with laughter, nostalgia, and a sense of togetherness. A Christmas movie marathon is a wonderful way to build anticipation and create lasting memories as everyone eagerly counts down to the most magical day of the year.



Family Movie Ideas:

A Christmas Story


Miracle on 34th Street

Polar Express


A Christmas Carol

Christmas Chronicles

Nightmare Before Christmas

Home Alone

How the Grinch Stole Christmas

Santa Buddies

It’s A Wonderful Life

Jack Frost

The Santa Clause

A Charlie Brown Christmas


Adult Christmas Movie Ideas:

Bad Santa

A Bad Moms Christmas

Die Hard

Four Christmases

Reindeer Games


The Ref

The Nightmare Before Christmas


Trading Places

Planes, Trains and Automobiles

National Lampoons Christmas Vacation



6.     Cookie Exchange Party

Holiday cookie exchanges are a delicious tradition that adds sweetness to the festive season. Friends, family, and neighbors gather to bake an assortment of their favorite cookies, from gingerbread to sugar cookies adorned with colorful icing. Each participant brings their baked creations to the exchange, where everyone can sample and then select a variety to take home. It’s a joyful way to share recipes, culinary traditions, and the spirit of giving during the holidays. These cookie swaps create a sense of unity and anticipation as participants eagerly await the opportunity to savor these homemade delights, making the season even more delightful.

7.     Holiday Scavenger Hunt

A Christmas themed scavenger hunt adds extra excitement to the festive season. Whether it’s in your home, neighborhood, or a nearby park, participants follow clues, lists and riddles to uncover hidden treasures or solve seasonal mysteries. It’s a thrilling way to engage family and friends, creating unforgettable moments of laughter and adventure. From searching for ornaments to finding holiday-themed clues, a holiday scavenger hunt adds a touch of whimsy and bonding to your celebrations, making the season merrier and brighter for all involved.

8.     Decorate a Ginger Bread House

Decorating a gingerbread house is a beloved holiday tradition that ignites creativity and festive spirit. These edible works of art come to life with colorful candies, icing, and imaginative decorations. Many families opt for gingerbread house kits, readily available in grocery stores, craft shops, and online retailers. These kits provide pre-baked gingerbread pieces and all the necessary decorations, making it easy and convenient to embark on this delightful holiday project. Whether you’re a seasoned decorator or a first-time gingerbread architect, these kits offer a fun and festive way to come together with loved ones and craft a charming holiday centerpiece that’s as delicious as it is beautiful.

9.     Get Cultured

Christmas traditions around the world showcase the rich diversity of celebrations. For example, in Germany and some parts of the United States, the tradition of finding the hidden pickle ornament in the Christmas tree adds an element of fun and surprise to the holiday. Family members compete to be the first to spot the pickle, and the lucky finder often receives a small gift or an extra blessing for the year. This tradition reminds us of the joy and playfulness that can be found in the holiday season, regardless of cultural differences, and it adds a unique twist to the global tapestry of Christmas traditions.

10.  Themed Gift Exchange

Choosing a holiday gift theme can transform the act of giving into a creative and meaningful experience. Whether it’s a theme centered around hobbies, interests, or shared memories, it adds a thoughtful touch to the process. A well-chosen theme demonstrates that you’ve put thought into your gifts, making the recipient feel truly special. Themes also provide a sense of unity among gift-givers, as everyone contributes to a cohesive and enjoyable gift-giving experience. Ultimately, holiday gift themes infuse the season with extra warmth and excitement, turning it into a time of thoughtful generosity and shared joy.



  1. Candy and Sweet Treats
  2. Winter Wonderland (Snow-themed gifts)
  3. Pampering and Spa Day
  4. Tech Gadgets and Accessories
  5. Cozy Comfort (Blankets, socks, and hot cocoa)
  6. DIY Crafts and Art Supplies
  7. Travel Essentials
  8. Books and Reading Nook
  9. Gourmet Food and Cooking Gadgets
  10. Outdoor Adventure (Camping or hiking gear)
  11. Fitness and Wellness
  12. Music and Entertainment (Headphones, concert tickets)
  13. Gardening and Green Thumb
  14. Animal Lovers (Pet toys and treats)
  15. Vintage and Retro
  16. Artisanal and Handcrafted
  17. Game Night (Board games and puzzles)
  18. Fashion Accessories (Scarves, hats, jewelry)
  19. Coffee and Tea Lovers 
  20. Home Décor and Interior Design

These themes offer a wide range of possibilities for creating thoughtful and memorable gift experiences during the holiday season. These themes can add a unique touch to your gift-giving, tailored to the interests and preferences of the recipient.

11.  White Elephant Gift Exchange

Holiday gift exchange games, like the White Elephant or a grab bag, bring an element of laughter and surprise to festive gatherings. These games add an exciting twist to traditional gift-giving, encouraging participants to select, swap, or steal gifts in a playful and often comical manner. It’s a delightful way to foster camaraderie and create memorable moments as friends and family come together to enjoy the spirit of the season. These games emphasize the joy of giving and receiving, with an extra dose of intrigue and amusement, making them a cherished tradition in many holiday celebrations.

12.  Host a Christmas Party

Hosting a Christmas party is an opportunity to transform your home into a winter wonderland, filled with the warmth of friendship and the magic of the season. It’s a time to deck the halls with twinkling lights and festive decorations, filling the air with the scent of holiday delights. 

As friends and family gather, laughter and joy become the soundtrack of the evening, and the exchange of thoughtful gifts and heartfelt conversations create memories that last a lifetime. 

Whether it’s a cozy gathering by the fireplace or an extravagant affair with a grand feast, hosting a Christmas party is a chance to share the spirit of togetherness, making the holiday season all the more merry and bright.





In the midst of life’s changes and challenges, the beauty of Christmas traditions lies in their ability to anchor us, offering a sense of continuity and comfort. 

As you embark on this journey of crafting fresh family Christmas traditions after divorce, remember that it’s not about erasing the past but about embracing the present and looking forward to a future filled with love and joy. 

These 12 creative ideas are just the beginning, as the true magic of Christmas traditions lies in their adaptability and the warmth they bring to your family’s heart. 

May these traditions become cherished moments, reminding you that despite the changes, the spirit of togetherness and celebration remains alive, vibrant, and forever your own.



I am Jen,

As a dedicated life coach specializing in co-parenting, divorce, and single motherhood, I bring a unique blend of professional expertise and personal experience to my coaching practice. I am deeply committed to helping women not only survive divorce but also thrive as they transition into their roles as single mothers. I provide tailored coaching to assist my clients in developing effective co-parenting strategies, fostering healthy communication, and creating nurturing environments for their children.

I am also the author of the best-selling book “I am Amazing: From Invisible to Invincible”. My self-help memoir offers hope and inspiration for anyone who has felt overwhelmed by life and their struggles with mental health. With raw honesty and vulnerability, I provide an intimate look at my journey from victim to victorious.




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