How to REALLY Practice Self Love: A Guide To Giving Yourself What You Need

by | Mar 25, 2022 | Life in General, Self Love

How to REALLY practice self love: a guide to giving yourself what you need

Many of us have heard that you can’t love others until you love yourself first. But in order to love yourself, you first have to practice self-love. This may seem like a daunting task, but it’s actually not as difficult as you think. In fact, there are plenty of ways that you can start practicing self-love today.

What is self love and why do we need it?

Self love is the act of valuing yourself and your own well-being. It’s about accepting yourself for who you are, both your good qualities and your flaws. When you practice self-love, you’re more likely to treat yourself with kindness and compassion. You’ll also be more likely to forgive yourself when you make mistakes.

Why do we need self love? Because it’s the foundation for a healthy and happy life. When you love yourself, you’re more likely to take care of your physical and emotional needs. You’re also more likely to make choices that are in line with your values and goals. In other words, self-love is essential for both your physical and mental health.

How to practice self love every day

One of the best ways to practice self love is by making time for yourself every day. This could mean taking a relaxing bath, reading your favorite book, or going for a walk in nature. It’s important to find activities that make you feel good and help you relax.

You can also practice self love by being kind and understanding towards yourself. For example, instead of beating yourself up over a mistake, try to forgive yourself and move on. When you’re kind and understanding towards yourself, you’ll find it easier to be kind and understanding towards others as well.

In modern media, there has been a growing trend to “treat yourself.” Get a pedicure, go shopping online, have that piece of cake, etc. While these practices can be great for me-time and indulging, you don’t need to buy, eat, or really do anything to adequately practice self love, especially if those things are not in line with your goals. For example, don’t go on a shopping spree when you’re worried about finances for the sake of “self love.” Self love does not have to be some grand event. It can be as simple as doing nothing or giving yourself a compliment when you look in the mirror.

Remember that self love is not about being perfect. It’s about accepting yourself for who you are, even with your flaws. When you can do that, you’ll be well on your way to a happier and healthier life.

The benefits of practicing self love

There are countless benefits to practicing self love, including:

  • improved mental health
  • better physical health
  • stronger relationships
  • better sleep
  • increased happiness and well-being
  • more confidence and self esteem
  • greater peace of mind and contentment

There’s so much going on in the world that can make us anxious and uncertain. But what the media and social platforms don’t tell you is that stress is literally toxic for your body. Having healthy boundaries and a sufficient amount of self love will improve your body and your mind. 

How to make yourself a priority in your own life

One of the best things you can do for yourself is to make your own happiness and well-being a priority in your life. This means taking care of yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically.

It also means setting boundaries with others. For example, if you need some time to yourself, don’t be afraid to say no to plans with friends or family. It’s important to spend time with the people you love, but it’s also important to make sure you’re taking care of yourself first.

Making yourself a priority can be difficult at first, but it’s so worth it. When you make your own happiness a priority, you’ll find that your life is much more joyful and fulfilling.

Tips for dealing with negative thoughts and emotions about ourselves

One of the biggest challenges we face when it comes to self love is dealing with negative thoughts and emotions about ourselves. This can be anything from feeling ashamed of our bodies to feeling like we’re not good enough.

When these negative thoughts and emotions arise, it’s important to be gentle and understanding towards yourself. This means accepting that these thoughts and emotions are normal, and that everyone experiences them from time to time.

It also means recognizing that these thoughts and emotions are not who you are. You are much more than your negative thoughts and emotions. When you can remember this, it will be easier to let them go.

Finally, it’s important to have compassion for yourself. This means recognizing that you’re doing the best you can, and that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. When you have compassion for yourself, it will be easier to treat yourself with kindness and respect.

Ways to celebrate and appreciate ourselves

A simple way to practice self love is to celebrate and appreciate ourselves. This means taking time each day, or each week, to reflect on all the things we love about ourselves.

It’s important to show ourselves some love in the little things. This can be anything from buying yourself a new outfit to taking yourself out for coffee. When we do things that make us feel good, it’s a way of telling ourselves that we deserve to feel good.

Do you have any other ideas for how to practice self love? 



I am Jen,

As a dedicated life coach specializing in co-parenting, divorce, and single motherhood, I bring a unique blend of professional expertise and personal experience to my coaching practice. I am deeply committed to helping women not only survive divorce but also thrive as they transition into their roles as single mothers. I provide tailored coaching to assist my clients in developing effective co-parenting strategies, fostering healthy communication, and creating nurturing environments for their children.

I am also the author of the best-selling book “I am Amazing: From Invisible to Invincible”. My self-help memoir offers hope and inspiration for anyone who has felt overwhelmed by life and their struggles with mental health. With raw honesty and vulnerability, I provide an intimate look at my journey from victim to victorious.




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